[bich]

–noun

Slang.

a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, esp. a woman.

This word is actually pretty inappropriate.  I would use the word in good fun, but I would never call somebody this.  Why?  Because it’s a bad word.  It’s offensive.  I don’t get offended by much, but I would get offended if somebody called me this.  I get offended when people even imply this about me.

In our Christian world, we don’t use this word, but we’ll use the words difficult, hard to get along with, proud, argumentative, bad attitude even.  Why is it that when a woman speaks her mind, puts her foot down, puts things out on the table, isn’t afraid of conflict, or knows what she wants, she is immediately labeled as these things?

We say we live in a modern world where men and women are treated equally, however, sometimes I wonder.  I wonder there still seems to be something wrong with a woman not being meek, mild, obedient, and always, always, tactful and appropriate.

I’m not saying it’s ok to be offensive, but I wonder when it’s ok for me to speak my mind, put my foot down, put things out on the table, be driven and when I cannot shy away from conflict?  I wonder how and when I can do these things without being labeled that horrible word, even just by implication?

I understand that I’m stubborn, bad-tempered, and confrontational, but when a man does that, he is stubborn, bad-tempered, and confrontational, but never that word.  Never is a man with these traits painted as a red-headed step-child with bloody fangs, waiting to devour its next victim.  It’s part of what makes him a man… an unpleasant man, but a man nonetheless.

If I have offended you, or if you think I am dead wrong, there is no need for bashing.  You may add wisdom, and whatever else you like, but no bashing my thoughts.  You must simply disagree with what I have to say today.  This might be what makes me a b***h, in your opinion, but there’s no need for namecalling.